After
spending the last ten years or so studying psychology and behavior, I’ve come
to the opinion that MOST of our desires, drives, preferences, strengths,
weaknesses, behaviors, and personality traits are determined by our DNA and
some by our social conditioning. I’m talking about both men and women here.
Even
differences like whether a person prefers adventure or couch riding are largely
a matter of programming from birth (If you really disagree with me on this one,
read some books on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator or try the book Who Am I? by
Steven Reiss.)
In any
event, HOWEVER they got to be interested in these common things, most women
have a few main interests, needs, desires, or whatever you want to call them
when it comes to men, relationships, and romance.
Have you
ever read the personals? Have you ever noticed how many women say things like
“princess looking for prince”, “friends first”, and “looking for my soulmate”?
Have you ever noticed how almost NO men ever say these things?
What’s
going on?
Have you
ever listened to a group of women talking about men? Ever notice how they speak
largely in some kind of code language and constantly make a big deal out of
tiny details that seem totally irrelevant? Have you ever noticed, on the other
hand, how men are direct with each other and have no interest in bickering over
small things?
What’s
going on?
Have you
ever noticed how many women are attracted to drama? Here’s my take on this
whole subject: Women are playing out a role that hasn’t changed for thousands
(or millions?) of years. These days the language and clothing are different.
But it’s the same that it’s always been.
There are
many parts of human brains that create drives and desires for different things.
Often, these drives conflict with each other. For instance, a woman might want
a strong man in her life, but she might also want a feeling of independence.
She might want to have attention, but she might also want to be seen as above
needing it. (Men have these types of conflicts as well, but in different
areas.)
So, for
example, I hear a lot of men saying things like, “I hate all the drama that
women create. Why do they create this stuff?”
My answer: Drama accomplishes a lot of things at once. It gets
attention, it sends emotions through the body (emotions are highly addictive
chemicals), it’s a way to be self-righteous, it’s often fun, it’s interesting
and prevents boredom, it gives things meaning... and on and on. There are a lot
of good reasons for drama. But most men can’t understand because drama fulfills
needs that MOST MEN DON’T HAVE.
It’s like women saying, “I hate it when all a guy can talk about
is sports.” What needs to sports fulfill for men? Competition, adrenaline,
power, domination... all the typical guy stuff. Incidentally, stuff that
fulfills needs that most women just plain don’t have.
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